I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently since I’m back on the dating market. I admit I have really been trying to figure out this whole dating thing. I have never really looked at dating as a game personally, and if it is… Well I am a total loser!! Lol! Here are the issues…
1. I’m not good at playing games when it comes to being around someone I really like.
2. I don’t seem to know the rules to this game!
3. I’m a direct person! If I want to see you, I’ll make sure you know it… Same thing if I don’t want to see you!!
I feel like I’m probably not the only person that is confused by dating… First of all what is technically considered dating?? As a teenager, dating someone was sitting on the phone for hours every night talking about random bullshit and going to the movies or hanging out at the mall on the weekends… Or finding a pasture party to go to! Well to be honest… I don’t have time for that juvenile crap! I’m an adult with a full time job and I’m a single mom with an almost teenager to raise! I can’t spend hours on the phone every day and the idea of spending the weekend at the mall makes my skin crawl! I guess as a mature… Ok, mostly mature and reasonably responsible adult, I’d like to find someone to talk to.. Maybe have dinner with once or twice a week. Someone to just get to know that I can make laugh and who wants to spend time with me and get to know the real me… My goofy and crazy side, my quiet and shy side, my caring and affectionate side, and yeah.. My pissed off and in a really crappy mood side… And if they’re really lucky, my sexy “you’re going to be begging for sleep in a few hours!” side LOL!! I’m not asking for someone to sacrifice every spare moment of non-working time here. I want to make sure that I respect someone’s personal time and space just as I want mine to be respected. I have a daughter and I have friends and I want to spend time with them too… Just as I’d want anyone I dated to do the same! I can tell you from experience… Being in the position of being absolutely everything to a person is far too much pressure to live up to!
Now… If someone can enlighten me as to the rules of his game, I’d sure like to know! Here’s the deal… If I take the time to text you, I actually give enough of a damn to try to communicate with you. However, if you choose to ignore my texts… Don’t worry, because I won’t disturb you after that. I mean, is there a rule that you have to wait so many days before texting back? Is there a maximum/minimum number of texts allowed? Do you call or not call? What the hell is going on?!?! I’m lost!!! Also I confess, I don’t understand the ignoring thing. If you don’t want to talk to me or see me, just fucking say so! I’m all about being up front personally. If I invite you to dinner or to go do something, I want to get to know you. I’m not asking for a ring or to put a label on anything. I just like you and want to get to know you better… Does this break a mysterious dating rule of which I am ignorant? Here’s another thing, if you meet me and all you’re interested in is a one night stand or a booty call… Why can’t you just say so? If you’re honest and up front, then I have no expectations! I’m a big girl and I can handle it! I admit, in the grand scheme of my life, I don’t want to settle for this type of situation. I’d like to meet someone who can see the value of seeing me in public and… Ahem… Private, if you get my meaning. Lol!
I am a busy woman and I fight a constant battle of trying to find balance in my life. The fact is, it’s not easy!! I am going to make time for one on one moments with my kiddo, and some time to be with my friends, and some time for me! I would like to also make the time to date as well…. And by date, I do mean actual in public, around other people, dates… Not just the private, in a bedroom, kind of dates. I realize that in order to meet men to date, I have to go outside of my house. I am definitely going to be making an effort at that part! What I run into is, I have no problem at all finding men interested in the… Ummmm, shall I say private dates… Just not necessarily the public kind. Oh well, I feel like that’s their loss! I’m an intelligent, funny, and fun person to be around… Not to mention I clean up pretty good for a date! Lol!
So… If anyone has mastered this whole dating game, please share with those of us in the dark! I may not get it or do it… But I’ll take advice under consideration! I’m too old and stubborn to change too much! Lol!